Many of you are taking the plunge with accountability partnership! I know it is a bold brave step! I applaud you! Thank you for stepping up and believing God for the NEW thing that he is doing!
Today, I want to provide some resources for you and your partner.
Here are some previous posts on Accountability here at the blog.
- How to pick an accountability partner. This post goes through some considerations you might want to ponder as you select a partner. If you already have a partner, this post isn’t likely to be terribly helpful. 🙂
- This post shares a glimpse into how accountability can work for you as I share how it worked for me with my partner.
- A post and form that I tried with my accountability partner a number of years ago. Click here to go to this post.
You and your accountability partner will want to discuss what works best for you each. What works best for one of you might not for the other, but you could still be successful partners together. For instance, there are some tools at the Thin Within website that some of you can use and benefit from. Some of these, might cause the rest of us to go right back into “dieting mode.” I have experienced both extremes during my own journey, but I share these tools with you now in case they can be supportive to some of you:
- Food_Log – While different from the usual “diet” food log, it can, nevertheless, trigger dieting behavior, so only consider using this after praying and sensing God’s leadership. Then, perhaps, try it only for a week (or less) and evaluate with the support of your AP (accountability partner).
- Hunger_Graph – This link shows two pages. The first is a sample page of how the graph looks when filled out. The second page is the blank one. Again, only use this if you think God is leading you to try it. It can be a temporary tool that can help us focus, but it can also challenge some of us with dieting triggers!
- Observation and Correction– Each time you practice the Key to Conscious Eating, you make a special mark on the screen indicating as much. 🙂 At the end of the day, if you don’t see many marks next to that key, then you know it is likely to be a key you want to work on. Some people use #1 and #8 as their primary boundary (0 and 5 eating) with #s 2-7 being secondary boundaries. It can be best to focus on only one or two of the secondary boundaries at a time.
No matter what you have decided about accountability, you probably want to be structured with your partner to talk about these things each week:
1. What successes have we experienced in our Thin Within journeys? (There should be something here each week. If there isn’t, please email me for input. It could be your partnership isn’t functioning quite the way it is intended and a little input can help.)
2. What successes have we experienced in our accountability partnership? (Hopefully, you are seeing some of these within the first week. These things might include “Our schedules are compatible,” “We both like to text a lot and that is working for us,” “My partner likes to text and that works for me, but she can also talk on the phone every 3 days which is my preference.”)
3. What challenges or hurdles have we experienced in our Thin Within journeys?
4. What observations and corrections have we made?
5. Each of you will want to ask your partner: How can I best serve you in our partnership in the week ahead? If a partner needs more support, if a partner needs less, talk about these things and see if you can reach a happy medium.
Evaluate these things with a simple “Is this working for me?” approach:
- Number of check-ins – does one of you feel like it isn’t frequent enough? Too frequent?
- Nature of check-ins – does it feel like the emails are too long? Too short? No response?
- “Venue” for check in – is the texting, phone calling, emailing approach work for you? Or do you need
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
– Galatians 6:2
Do you have an AP yet? If not, don’t wait any longer! Jump on board. Let’s have an updated response here on this post. If you still need an Accountability Partner, say so HERE on this post, ok? Then, please type out your email address like this: heidi bylsma at gmail dot com (no spaces) or harleys heidi at comcast dot net (no spaces). Then, if you see someone who intrigues you, go ahead and send them an email. No need to wait for me!
Let us know if you need an accountability partner. If you are uncomfortable leaving your email address the way I have suggested, that’s ok, too. Just post you still want a partner and when you see someone you want to connect with, say so. I will shoot you both an email (to the addresses registered for your comments on this site).
Looking fot accountability patner janinakate at yahoo dot com
Let me know when you get linked up, ok, Kate? Can’t wait to hear! YOu have such an amazing testimony and I know others will be so blessed as they get to know you!
Thank you Heidi for all the info and idea’s….I will check in with my accountability partner today. 😉 God bless you for all you do. Amen.
Wow, Heidi! You’ve given us a lot to consider. Victoria and I have just partnered and decided we want to pray for each other, of course, and encourage one another. I can see that we need to flesh that out. Time for more prayer! Thank you.
Hi, Sheila. I recommend that accountability be that. Each of you is accountable to the other for something you need someone to check in with in order to be faithful. So, if stopping eating at 5 is a challenge for you, that might be a good one. If having a quiet time is, that could be another accountability point. This is what I do (in part) with my coaching clients and it helps. One person wanted to be held accountable for sitting down while eating…so that was one of her points that she told me about each day (if she had accomplished it). It is good to always include observation and correction. The check-ins can be short and sweet, too! It is SO helpful!