Failing My Way to Freedom – Guest Post

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Image courtesy of Stuart Miles at

As much as I hate to admit it, I know a thing or two about failure.

Ten years ago, I discovered Thin Within and released over forty pounds in the span of two years. It  was a time of blessing and victory in my life and I am so thankful that the Lord brought me to Thin Within! Unfortunately, my success was not long term and I gained thirty of those pounds back over the past six years. It’s hard to admit that, but my lessons in failure have helped bring me into a sustained place of freedom with food and obsession with weight. Praise God!

During those six years where I regained the weight, I stopped and started Thin Within close to two dozen time (gosh, that’s hard to admit!). I would commit to Thin Within for a few weeks, experience a little success and then immediately fall of the horse and find myself three pounds heavier than when I started. It was a cycle that I went through over and over again. I felt  hopeless as I cycled in and out of Thin Within… “Lord! Will I ever just get this 0-5 stuff and stop failing?!” I worried that my failures meant that I was a failure.

Thankfully, I can truly say that God is doing a new thing in me right now. He has shown me that all those past failures had a purpose and are currently carrying me into a place of learning, correction, grace and freedom. I have learned many deep spiritual lessons about my past failures and those valuable lessons are leading me through a time of sustained victory right now. Not everything about failure is bad; there are many lessons and tools that can spring forth out of failure. God can truly use our missteps for His glory!

Heidi encouraged me to read Chapter 10 in the Thin Within book in one of our coaching sessions and discover all the wonderful things that are true about God and about failure, especially when it comes to Thin Within. I was amazed at all the nuggets of truth I was able to dig out of that chapter! These truths helped put my past failures into perspective and have helped me put aside my fear of any future failure that may loom on the horizon. Here is my “Top 10 List” about failure and what God can do with it. I’m sure there are many more truths to find!

1. Failure cannot win if you continue press on and move forward
2. God can bring wonders out of failure
3. God’s grace is sufficient to cover failure
4. Failure can be turned into opportunity
5. Failure is delay, not defeat!
6. Failure can be the result of leaving God out, the result of sin, acting in our own strength or trying to do something God has not called us to
7. Failure is not something you are, it is something you do
8. If you believe yourself to be a failure, you will likely act like one
9. God is bigger than failure
10.God equips you for sustained success and the ability to defeat failure!

One of the most powerful truths for me was # 1 and #10. Failure truly only wins if I stand still and choose to do nothing. Each day I decide to press on, move forward and get back on the horse is a day that failure is defeated! And I love the security I feel in knowing that God equips me with His word, power and Holy Spirit to walk in victory and defeat failure. Amen to that!

How about you?BeckyY

Have you seen how God has used failure in your life to teach you valuable lessons? Are there any truths about failure that you would add to the “Top 10 List?” How has God used failure for His glory in your life?

~ Becky Y.

Becky lives, hikes, plays and makes a living photographing weddings in the Western part of the United States. She is happily married to the best man on the planet!

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7 Responses to Failing My Way to Freedom – Guest Post

  1. soaring2him November 20, 2013 at 8:09 am #

    Becky, I really needed to read this today! There have been a few situations this week that have made me feel like a failure. The enemy has been right there telling me that I need to just give up and go back to dieting because this is too hard. Thank you for your encouragement! You are a blessing!

    • Heidi Bylsma November 24, 2013 at 5:02 am #

      Becky’s list is so encouraging. I think one of the most vital things on this journey is allowing God to redefine failure for us. Failure may be something we do, but it is NOT what we *are*. In Christ, all those “failures” are redeemed! They become wonderful teachers! I am so glad Becky shared with us! She will be sharing again! 🙂

  2. Susan November 20, 2013 at 11:16 pm #

    I also needed to hear this. I feel like a failure right now because I committed to doing TW today and I just overate chocolate. But I will press on and look at all the Non-scale Victories I did have today.

    • Heidi Bylsma November 24, 2013 at 5:04 am #

      That old scale just doesn’t have the right to tell us when we fail. Think of all the many moments that your heart has been tender to the Lord, Susan! That is one reason why I truly believe we need to let God “weigh” our hearts before we ever step foot on a scale. Maybe if we asked him what HE thinks about our growth, our sacrifice, our desire to honor him…we wouldn’t place such a premium on what the scale says. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE, dear Susan! 🙂

  3. Jamie Moe November 21, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Thank you Becky for sharing this with us. We are not failures unless we just quit! I am encouraged to keep on pressing on in the power of the Holy Spirit. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. When I mess up I will not give up! Just go to the next hunger signal and start again at 0-5. God is teaching me to be patient and persevere in Him. This has been a slow journey with my Lord Jesus.
    Romans 8:1
    Therefore, [there is] now no condemnation (no adjudging guilty of wrong) for those who are in Christ Jesus, who live [and] walk not after the dictates of the flesh, but after the dictates of the Spirit.

    • Heidi Bylsma November 24, 2013 at 5:06 am #

      40 years marching around the desert! LOL! I hear ya, Jamie. But really…when you think of how our characters are being shaped and changed for *eternity* through being on this journey, wow…is it ever worth it!


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