This is a repost. I have found that this issue has been coming up for a lot of the people I have been coaching, so I thought others might be encouraged with this information, too.
For those of you who are visual and prefer the video version, here is a video (email subscribers will have to come to the blog to see). This is an old video posted first in about 2008:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_EEnT8Q6tw?rel=0
Thin Within has three “phases.” For some people, these phases are, indeed, a progression. For others, it is more like layers of an onion…they get to a certain “phase” to discover God peels away the onion and they step back and discover a new level to an earlier phase. I will just describe them in a linear fashion though, for simplicity.
First phase is the Freedom Phase. “All things are permissible.” This phase blows the lid off the dieting box! God designed our bodies to give signals when we are hungry (what Thin Within calls “0”) and to cue us when we have had enough food, too (what Thin Within calls “5”).
When we respond to our bodies in this way, any food is permissible. All the “can’t haves” and “do nots” of the dieting world fall away and no longer make us feel condemned! Freedom! No need to worry about counting anything.
The temptation many experience is to go a bit bonkers with this phase. 😀 Foods that have been “off limits” for years are suddenly “legalized!” When eating 0 to 5, a person can eat hot fudge sundaes, pizza, full fat salad dressings and still release weight. It is true! (True confessions: I lost most of my weight eating foods that people consider “junk” food or “unhealthy” food. Honest. I only like veggies in salsa. :-))
The freedom phase is a time of building, building, building, a foundation of my relationship with the Lord. He teaches me to lean on him more and more–especially as I discover that waiting for hunger is REALLY HARD! I realize that I have so many reasons I want to turn to food other than physical hunger. Remove my coping mechanism (overeating) and now I have to deal with my heart. God shows me He can be relied upon to help with this process.
So phase 1 includes learning how reliable He is to help me wait for physical hunger, to heal my heart that has issues that surface and that he can also help me to know when to stop eating. What does “hungry” and “satisfied” even feel like? Phase 1 participants are not considering so much the nutrition or benefit to eating one food or another. They are developing confidence that their bodies are reliable and that God is sufficient for meeting all their needs.
Phase 2 – Discernment Phase is based on the next part of the verse…Since all things are permissible, but NOT all things are beneficial, I need to exercise discernment.
Now I begin to evaluate prayerfully how does God want me to nourish my body? What foods really work best for me? As I ask, He shows! I begin to see that I have a responsibility and this is an awesome privilege! I begin to scrutinize my choices. Thin Within calls the categories for food Teasers, Pleasers, Whole Body Pleasers, Total Rejects. This is explained in the Thin Within book in detail in chapter 18.
I still don’t worry about nutrition labels, but some phase 2 folks have the freedom to be able to read labels and use what they know to ask God for wisdom in feeding their bodies. More importantly than food labels, however, I begin to notice how various foods cause my body to react or feel. I still eat only when hungry and stop when satisfied physically. But I begin to see that my body is amazingly efficient! It gets by with so much less food than I ever thought possible, so I begin to want to fuel it with high octane fuel! Like a high performance race car, I begin to see that different fuels will cause performance to vary! With so little food needed, I really begin to make what I put in my body count. I do this with joy and without a sense of deprivation because the foundation established in Phase 1 is still in place. I am free. All things are permissible! I delight to do God’s will and what that looks like for one person will be VERY different than what it looks like for another.
In phase 2, we probably don’t have an entire meal of German chocolate cake like we may have during phase 1. Or if we do, it won’t be as often as during phase 1.
Instead, in phase 2, we may reserve some “space” in our stomachs (within 0 to 5 eating) for a small taste of whatever it is we have always loved so much at the end of a small meal. We continue to delight in our freedom, but we begin to see that freedom means not just free TO eat, but free from having to have whatever it is we used to live for! Having a smaller amount at the end of a satisfying meal does as much for us as having the entire thing for dinner did in phase 1.
One other thing about Phase 2, the Discernment Phase, is we also begin to scrutinize our choices regarding activity. We begin to see that this body, God’s chosen dwelling place on earth, can operate best when it is given some activity. In phase 1 we have delighted in the *fact* that we don’t *need* exercise to lose weight (not if we eat between 0 and 5!!!), but we nevertheless realize that we are free to exercise in a godly way…that this is something that honors the Lord when we do it for His glory instead of our own like many of us have in our dieting/exercising pasts. We realize in phase 2 (if not sooner) that we don’t just want to release extra weight, but we want our bodies to be fit temples as well. We want to be able to go up stairs and not be winded. We want to be able to run and play with our kids, go to the snow, go swimming and splash around, horseback ride, and not feel like our bodies are going through the ringer! We want to be healthy, vibrant and truly as alive as possible for all the days God ordains for us to be on this earth! That all happens as we worship God through moving our bodies! Be it through dancing to praise music, walking the dog, getting silly with the kids, or our every day chores done with a bit more spring in our step…and some, of course, can even do a regimented workout schedule without becoming obsessed. Some can do it with a worshipful submissive heart!
Phase 3 – The Mastery Phase – is based on the last part of 1 Corinthians 6:12 “I will not be mastered by anything.” Can I say no to hot fudge sundaes? Sure, they are permissible. And I can choose to have some if I wish…but do I have to have ice cream? (Or whatever it might be for any particular person?)
The person in the Mastery Phase might discover that the brownies the kids made last week got buried beneath mail on the kitchen counter and never got eaten, even though previously she LIVED for brownies! Sure, they are “permissible” and sure she can have some…but it just doesn’t matter any more…she doesn’t have to have brownies or any dessert at all! Or she can slide the chips and salsa away at the Mexican restaurant without having any because she would rather enjoy the entree! She isn’t going to bow to her tastebuds!
These phases are dynamic, not static. You don’t just “arrive” at Mastery and stay there forever *necessarily*. Maybe some people do eventually. But I have found that some of us may always have a “thorn in our flesh” that causes us to keep needing the Lord to help us through…our desire for food may be what God uses to keep us clinging to Him the rest of our lives…but what a wonderful thing it is for something that once caused so much pain in my life (my overeating) to be used of God to call me to himself again and again…Praise Him for redeeming that which the enemy intended for my constant harm all my days!
Which phase are you in? What will you need to believe in order to move to the next phase?
This video is very helpful. I have experienced Phase One for many years from following another Christian program. I love sweets and if I eat a lot of them it makes me unable to stop when full. So, I only do well on this program when I stay away from sweets, which is confusing since I should be able to eat whatever my body calls for. Being introduced to Phase Two helps me see that what my body calls for is of the flesh and I need to seek what God is wanting me to eat. Thank you for this lesson.
You aren’t alone, Pam. Thanks for your comment.
Love the video. The horses wanted so much of your attention. Just like kids are sometimes. I am glad you are reminding us of the three phases of thin within. In my case, I am at phase 2 mostly, but at times I do practice saying no to a food that I always feel I must have. It would be so nice not to be mastered by certain foods. So many times I give in to a certain food simply because it is there. I think this is a good renewing of the mind verse to help us to move towards mastery. I do realize that there is no quick-fix to undoing lifelong habits, but I am happy there is hope in God in helping us to be free from bondage to food issues. Thanks again. This is very helpful.
They were so silly, weren’t they, Lisa? 🙂 I agree. 1 Corinthians 6:12 is a great verse for renewing of the mind.
Well I gotta say I feel “short changed” here…”some” get to stay in “phase 1” forever and I only got to play there for a week – just my luck 🙂
I am delighted to have one foot in phase 2.
Lisa, I too am looking forward to NOT being “mastered” by certain foods. For me, this issue is covered in Question 3 of Barb’s Study this week: What would MY life (and relationship with God) look like two or three months from now if, instead of eating whenever a certain situation came up, I was to go to God to see the situation from His point of view?
LOL! That’s what you get for being an “advanced” student! 🙂 I love your question…My relationship with God will be SO much closer if I run to Him to see what HIS perspective is, instead of my myopic version of “truth.”
Seriously though…I grabbed onto the “freedom means not just free TO eat, but free from having to have whatever it is we used to live for ” statement Heidi made. This switches my thinking somewhat, like the difference between a glass half empty to a glass half full.
Wow! So glad to hear it, Lesley. That is awesome!
I haven’t had a chance to watch the video bc I am on vacation and busy with the family. But I do want to share a God praise. When I was packing for the trip I pulled out clothes from last summer. My best fitting shorts from then were too big and a pair that haven’t fit in years did fit! I know that God is working in/through me although the weight release seems so slow(almost 2 years since I first read TW) . But I haven’t had a signifcant visible sign of the changes in my body until now (I only have 1-2 sizes to release but it just hasn’t “happened” for me yet). I know that this bible study and renewing my mind and focus has made the difference. Thank you Heidi for leading us.
WOW! Celebrating with you! The heart and thinking changes are transformative. God is DOING a NEW thing! WOOT!
I have been trying to figure out why I am having such a hard time getting back into eating within the boundaries of hunger/fullness. I was able to master this before, so what’s different now? Last night the Lord showed me Ezekiel 18:31 ” Rid yourselves of all the offenses you have committed and get a new heart and a new spirit”. I didn’t fully understand exactly what the Lord was showing me until this morning. Not only do I need to repent ( which I did before, but I guess I need to do again), but in order for me to be able to get a new heart and a new spirit, I need a new start. I jumped into this bible study where I left off a year ago, phase 3, and I feel God is showing me that I need to renew my mind by starting over, going back to the beginning with phase 1. Thanks for the review of TW, Heidi. Today I am diving into phase 1 with a new heart and spirit!
Great idea, Linda. I know I have been frustrated with myself for not being as far along as I think I should be. God has convicted me of pride in this. I really do believe that we get to a certain place, then God peels back another layer on the onion…which stings…and I have seen that there is more work to do with him…Like when my mom began to “lose her mind” at about the same time as my husband’s midlife crisis hit and the same time my son was vying for leadership in our home. Woah! I couldn’t believe how all the old tendencies that I thought were dead came to life! Dealt with that and then another new series of challenges took me deeper again. I really believe that I need to just nurture a humble dependent spirit and not look at this even as a progression. It is a moment by moment trust walk with the Lord. I think that is why this challenge is in my life. To keep me humbly dependent on him.
I’m not sure which phase I am in! I still get hung up on diet thoughts (protein, carb, not going too long without food) although I finally don’t think in terms of points. I don’t think I have fully experienced the freedom phase. I never just ate cake for a meal :). But I am discerning in what I choose to eat. I know what makes my body feel good and not so good. Although i wonder if this is more diet mentality than discernment. And I have forgotten about goodies in the cabinet before (mastery). This study is helping me to finally see the lies of dieting, but it just seems to be taking this stubborn mind forever. So, I think I have a foot in both phase 1 and 2 and an occasional glimpse into 3. Does that make any sense??
It definitely makes sense. I like the way you describe it, CMK! 🙂